Our Id Ego & Superego by Sigmund Freud ( MY FAV )

According to Freud, we are born with our Id. The id is an important part of our personality because as newborns, it allows us to get our basic needs met. Freud believed that the id is based on our pleasure principle. In other words, the id wants whatever feels good at the time, with no consideration for the reality of the situation. When a child is hungry, the id wants food, and therefore the child cries. When the child needs to be changed, the id cries. When the child is uncomfortable, in pain, too hot, too cold, or just wants attention, the id speaks up until his or her needs are met.

The id doesn't care about reality, about the needs of anyone else, only its own satisfaction. If you think about it, babies are not real considerate of their parents' wishes. They have no care for time, whether their parents are sleeping, relaxing, eating dinner, or bathing. When the id wants something, nothing else is important.

Within the next three years, as the child interacts more and more with the world, the second part of the personality begins to develop. Freud called this part the Ego. The ego is based on the reality principle. The ego understands that other people have needs and desires and that sometimes being impulsive or selfish can hurt us in the long run. Its the ego's job to meet the needs of the id, while taking into consideration the reality of the situation.

By the age of five, or the end of the phallic stage of development, the Superego develops. The Superego is the moral part of us and develops due to the moral and ethical restraints placed on us by our caregivers. Many equate the superego with the conscience as it dictates our belief of right and wrong.

In a healthy person, according to Freud, the ego is the strongest so that it can satisfy the needs of the id, not upset the superego, and still take into consideration the reality of every situation. Not an easy job by any means, but if the id gets too strong, impulses and self gratification take over the person's life. If the superego becomes to strong, the person would be driven by rigid morals, would be judgmental and unbending in his or her interactions with the world.

H1N1??

just two days back i fell sick...

well it all began with my sore throat!

it was so irritating as i culdnt even eat or drink properly! its wa soo0o0 painful! and den came d damn flu!!! sneezing and sneezin non-stop!....der came the combination...d damn cough! and i lost my voice! i sounded like sum dinasour!!! lol...

due to all dese plus sum extra stress....fever came! 38.9! my mum n sis told me tt i mite have gotten swine flu!!! i was tinkin in my heart, stop cursing me la!!! haix...den sum hw mum gave me d medication at hme n wasted one day...i didn get cured! my fever didn go dwn....

n den finally mum decided to bring me to the clinic....wen we wen der, i got d shock of my life!! we saw tis young lady wearing the face mask, holding sum papers and was on the fone crying...n she der came d ambulance and d medics brought her... mum wen to ask d nurse wat happen and he said, she had fever and wen to overseas...to HONG KONG!!!!

i got so freaked out mann! my mum wen to take d que no and sat dwn...d nurse came n took my temp n said,"oh dear, ur fever is so high!" i was tinking..."GOVINDA"!!!....den he asked me if i had flu, cough, sore throat and muscle pain...these are d symptoms for siwne flu!!! i said yes for all exlcudin the muscle pain n tank god i didn go overseas and tt nurse had to make me wear tt damn mask!!!

damn embarrassing! upon seeing me wearing the mask, a lady who was sitting beside me, got off n stood outside the clinic...she laughed and said, "sry la, i very scared le" i was tinking! damn dese sporeans! dnt hv to be kiasu until like tis!! argh! den finally i went to see d doc...he was so rude! he didn communicate wit my mum properly and wen mum asked abt d medication n requested for a medication, he just" i alrdy told d nurse, u go outside and check...u not happy, u let d nurse knw" like wat the hell la!...

oh btw, tt wasnt d same doc i always see....my family doc wasnt der, so tis was tis temporary doc...so yea, wen out took d medication n went home!! terrible day! i seriously feel like sueing the doc! argh!

sighz :(

back afta a long break...

a long bad break...!!



so many things has happened in tis break....

so much fites between me and him! it seems like its my fault for all this to happen! but wen i tink thru it thoroughly, i sumtimes wonder if it is reeli my fault??? he did things to take revenge on which hurts so badly! n even made me suspect him! i mean who wuldnt if dey were in my situation...

it seems like he has lost interest in me! he wasnt like tis at d beginning! he was sum1 who doesnt like me getting hurt, but now, he is doing tt so many times! told him so many times tt if he wants to carry on, wit sum1 else....let it be....but he claims tt he still loves me....den y must he hurt me so badly! his actions....his words are killing me! he wen out wit his godsis without even telln me! he did it, coz once i did d same....but i wen out wit a grp....he wen alone wit her....y
?!!

im like so lost! i duno wat to do! i duno if tis would carry on! no one is helping me! no one can help me! every min, every sec i feel like he's cheating me! i mean all guys, or maybe most guys wuld say no....but at d back u wun knw wat are dey doing??!! i reeli feel like ending everything! its all my fault! i shld have tot wisely!

i deserve to be treated like tis! y dun u juz kill me instead of torturing me like tis!

he went for chalet! i culdnt slp d whole nite, wonder whr is he n wat he's doing! d fear was so great tt i kept shivering nt tokin to myself! wat mistake did i do tt i hv to sit one corner and cry every single day, tolerating his hurts! SHE told me, dnt rush....sit dwn n tink properly! duno whr i kept my brains!

im the reason for my mistakes! as punishment, i deserve all this hurt and tears!





going off with confusions.....
:(
will be back

Life . . .

When we are born and when we die its ntn so great compared to living the life!
Each human has fear in them, the four Fs. Family, Finance, Future & Fitness,

Family :
what are the fears can one have in a family? parents will have the fear of bringing up their kids, will they go in a wrong path? will dey be fulfiling? and many questions will be running in deir mind!

the children will have fears such as, exams! fear of failure during schoolings days....fear of rejection during datings and work interviews and many more....dey most fear of getting betrayed, fear of being taken advantage of and fear of not being accpeted in the society or the particular grp of frens they want to be....

Finance:
questions like....how am i gona save my money? where will i save my money? when or how will i go bankrupt? how to be spend money wisely? who will i entrust my money to? how am i gona earn money? and we can continue askin so many questions to ourselves....

Fitness:
1st was SARS, den on to BIRD FLU and now SWINE FLU! how are we to lead a healthy life till d end if such new sickness arises? common old age sickness such as, heart attacks, diabetes, high blood pressure....how to prevent from getting them or how to cure em??

Future:
this is the part where all of us are real afraid of....sum would say, "future will come on its own, give priority to the present 1st, settle issues in the present and then worry abt the future". but isnt it beta if we prepare for the future now and be prepared for the worst case scenarios???

So u see, we dont have any fears or worries wen we are born and wen we are dead! its the in between that is a challenge! life is short, really very short! live it well, live it right!

DREAMS....

http://www.thedreamsmovie.com/

WATCH THIS VIDEO DEAREST FRIENDS! REALLY VERY MEANINGFUL!

dots in life....

life at sch is getting tougher...assignments, due dates, exam marks!
oh my lord! its killing me! have not been attending classes properly, only realised wen i acutally found out that i missed out alot in juz 1 lesson! but, having too many probz, i kinda neglected it n spend more time with my friends....the uniquely bonded frens! being with them makes me forget every damn prob in my life! but ttz only wen im with them!

playing song games, charades n yea....juz being ourselves....no restrictions and having fun!! well now its now time to get back to work! i reeli got to score distinction for my remaining modules! my very close fren yoges seemed very attached to my frens den i am...each time she asks me tt she dnt wan go class n ask to slack...i wuld say no...but i feel bad! am i like controllin her? ttz wat i feel la...suddenly i wana go MIA....juz leave everyone n be with me, myself n i!

life at personal, seems more challenging.....its getting tougher day by day! y cant i juz get wat i wan in life n be happy? i have alrdy suffered so0o0 much! wen thru soo0o much of humiliation, hurts n tears! y more??? haix....is this wat we get for having so0o0o mucha hope in GOD??? or is it juz tt he is testiing our patience??? wateva it is....im happy that i got my navaz back into action!

reasons for my smile!

starting to blog proper now.....afta a long time!
had been really busy and tied down with so many assignments and yea!
started to play a fool, but im stopping it....i realised tt missing one lecture is like missing out an whole module!!! gosh, missed out alot juz for not goin class for a day! damn!!!

wish to tell sumthin abt my new grp of frens...here is hw we got close....
i met one of long lost fren, Jafir who is stdyin in the same sch as me...i knew him 1st wen i was in sec 3 thru ICS....yea, afta a long time we bump into each other! den he introed me to his fren, nuzmi n nowrin n den meera....n i introed my frens yoges n senthil n menaga to them....n poof! we became so0o0 close like we palaguran each other for many years!!

haha! we are always at the same port, behind our sch! its so coled the smoking area!!! im so gona die fast coz im a passive smoker!!! i take in the smoke tt my frens smoke! haha! kinda fun la! dey are juz too happening! make me laugh till i fall off 4rm whereva i sit! nt only that, but dey also are damn caring n helpful! damn happening lot la! tokin abt vadivel n doin comedys...playing charades and singing competition!

just before yoges bdae, we wen sentosa....gosh! tt was hell damn happening day!!! so0oo mucha fun! neva had tis kinda enjoyment before!!! dey are all super damn loving tt i wish we all culd stay in an house together! we are more like a family!!! no matter how sad i am, the moment i see them, i forget everyting! esp nowrin & yoges, nowrin's one gal tt can brite up ur day with her smile n yoges with her comedy!

so yea....will upload a pic of dese loosus one day! hehe! dnt u ppl dare kannu vaikuran ok!!!
haha!

love tis uniquely bonded frens alot!

yoges

nowrin

mena

meera

jafir

senthil

nuzmi!

A song that i love...

Of all the things I’ve believed in

I just want to get it over with

Tears form behind my eyes

But I do not cry

Counting the days that pass me by

I’ve been searching deep down in my soul

Words that I’m hearing are starting to get old

It feels like I’m starting all over again

The last three years were just pretend

And I said,

Goodbye to you

Goodbye to everything I thought I knew

You were the one I loved

The one thing that I tried to hold on to

The one thing that I tried to hold on to

I still get lost in your eyes

And it seems that I can’t live a day without you

Closing my eyes and you chase my thoughts away

To a place where I am blinded by the light

But it’s not right

And it hurts to want everything and nothing at the same time

I want what’s yours and I want what’s mine

I want you

But I’m not giving in this time

And when the stars fall

I will lie awake

You’re my shooting starsolve

I'm still loving you alot baby :'(

meaningful...

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.His bed was next to the room's only window.
The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end. They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.
The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake. Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.
Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fineview of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man onthe other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.
One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.
Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.
She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away. As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside. He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed. It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.
The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall. She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.

' Epilogue: There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled. If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.

'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present.'

an email tt i received tt reeli touched my heart!
its to all my dearest loved ones!

To my ladies whom i cherish alot!

To my lovely girlfriends!

GIRLS IN MY CIRCLE

When I was little, I used to believe in the concept of one best friend,And then I started to become a woman.And then I found out that if you allow your heart to open up,God would show you the best in many friends.

One friend is needed when you're going through things with your man.
Another friend is needed when you're going through things with your mom.
Another will sit beside you in the bleachers as you delight in your children and their activities. Another when you want to shop, share, heal, hurt, joke, or just be. One friend will say, 'Let's cry together,
'Another , 'Let's fight together,'
Another , 'Let's walk away together.

'One friend will meet your spiritual need,
Another your shoe fetish,
Another your love for movies,
Another will be with you in your season of confusion,
Another will be your clarifier,
Another the wind beneath your wings.

But whatever their assignment in your life,
On whatever the occasion,
On whatever the day,
Or wherever you need them to meet you with their gym shoes on and hair pulled back,
Or to hold you back from making a complete fool of yourself ..
Those are your best friends.

It may all be wrapped up in one woman, But for many, it's wrapped up in several..
One from 7th grade,One from high school, Several from the college years, a couple from old jobs,
On some days your mother,
On some days your neighbour,
On others, your sisters,
And on some days, your daughters.

So whether they've been your friend for 20 minutes or 20 years, AND ONLY IF YOU'D LIKE TO,
Pass this on to the women that God has placed in your lifeTo make a difference.Thanks for being in my circle.